Today morning, I read this.
There was one particular line that stayed: “…somehow the deep compassion and anger felt in the US when it is attacked never translates to understanding the effects of our own aggression against others.”.
It's not just in the US. It's everywhere. We seldom ever sit down and think about what happens when we start venting. Venting is easy and it helps. But when you vent on people? Not so much.
And it's so easy to get annoyed. It's human nature to take the easy course of action. There are of course cliched tactics to bypass this (like count 1 to 10 or 1 to 20, whatever helps) but sometimes we forget to count. I like to think this counting? they're not just numbers, they're blessings.
It's funny that I'm writing this because most of the mistakes I have made so far in my life are a product of me getting angry too fast/jumping to conclusions.
But it's never too late to change, yes?
So when I get angry I immediately detach myself from this angry person, because I know this angry person has stopped thinking. When you stop thinking, disaster happens.
And then I start to count, my blessings:
2.My mother loves me.
3.My aunt loves me.
4. I am not hungry.
5. I am properly clothed.
6.I have a roof over my head.
7.I have a fully functioning brain.
8. Whatever is making me angry right now can be fixed because of point 7.
9. I have people who will help me, if I need anything.
10. I can write, read and express my thoughts.
These are definitely, things I count as blessings. And if it's still not helping, I let the list go on, till I start thinking again. This list is something I am preparing my mind to learn by heart so I don't have to resort to any kind of thinking when I'm angry. It'll be like a reflex action thingy.
If each of us, had a list of our own, the aggression could be reduced...a lot.
Because, I have seen that things get sorted out a whole deal better, when there's nothing but rationality and logic dictating our actions.
This is an opinion, not a way of life.I am in no authority to design a way of life, just to sort out my own and extend a helping hand to anyone reaching out.
I'm going to end this with Amanda Palmer of course, because she has this uncanny way of taking me through emotions that I never thought I could feel: